You might benefit from couples therapy if..
Your conflict tends to feel like repetitions of the same cycle.
One of you pulls away in conflict while the other wants to resolve issues right away.
You sometimes feel a little misunderstood by your partner.
You are wanting to feel secure and strengthen a sense of teamwork.
You want to understand one another more deeply.
You are willing to put in effort to make your relationship even more rewarding.
Attachment
We can examine how your individual histories have affected how you experience and respond to moments that feel threatening to your connection.
Conflict
We can track your cycle, help you make sense of what’s happening, and work to strengthen your sense of teamwork in overcoming conflict.
Communication
We can find words for the parts of your experience that your partner may not understand. We’ll fine tune clearer signals and help you get on the same wavelength.
Navigating Differences
Maybe you’ve questioned compatibility or chalked it up to differing love languages. We can seek opportunities for connection in the midst of differences.
Life Stages
Whether you are navigating a new relationship, in the throes of parenthood, or becoming an empty nesters, we can anticipate and resource you for the unique changes you are facing.
Infidelity
We can begin to understand the story of how we got here, process the pain together, and gradually rebuild trust and security.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
I have advanced-level training in Emotionally Focused Therapy. EFT is an evidence-based psychotherapy model that is considered the gold standard for relational therapy. It takes into consideration attachment, neuroscience, family of origin, and addressing unproductive conflict cycles to create lasting change.
No couples therapy has as much research support as Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
Within the EFT process, there is an intentional design of both individual and conjoint sessions to uncover the full experience of both partners. The overarching goal is to bring you to new encounters that change the nature of your relationship.
Premarital Counseling
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I’ll have you take an online SYMBIS assessment before we meet, which provides a report with an overview of your relationship. We then go through that together and cover the following topics: family background, mindsets towards marriage, expectations, personality differences, communication dynamics etc.
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Some couples move through the report in 6-8 sessions, while some prefer to extend it so that it’s more like ongoing couples therapy.
You also have the option of either meeting on a weekly basis or doing a 1-day intensive (typically on Sundays).
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My rate is $150/session, but you'll also receive a notarized affidavit at the end that you can bring with you to get a discount on your marriage license. The intensive cost is $1,000.
FAQ
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There are no definitive measures for needing therapy. We all have pain points in our stories, and unhealed pain often finds a way of affecting our present. Therapy isn’t about fixing something negative, it’s an opportunity to heal and grow.
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A first session can be intimidating, whether it’s your first time in therapy or not. The first session has more to do with getting to know each other and understanding where you are and how you got here. There aren’t any expectations of you to lead the session or know what to say etc.
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It’s standard to meet on a weekly basis, but we can find a frequency that fits your budget, schedule, and goals for therapy.
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It’s normal for one partner to feel resistant towards therapy. It’s intimidating to invite another person into the vulnerable places of your relationship. But for therapy to be effective, it is really important that both of you value your relationship enough to want to be there.